Let's Talk About Love/ Char's Corner

Guard your heart. When you least expect it someone that doesn't  have good intentions my pass through the gates. Making you wonder what happen? How did this happen? Ladies it seems like today all men want to do is sleep with a bunch of women and have a women for each one of his needs.  One to fill the shoes of caregiver (i.e. a mommy figure )  the sexual freak, a party girl and so on. Too many shoes to name. Guarding your heart is hard. I was recently a victim of having my heart secretly stolen and than stomped on. It was like he was a jewelry thief  that made it pass all the security high beams only to get the 1 billion dollar diamond and drop it on the floor like a bad Sour patch kid. Leaving me feeling like what the Fuck happen?? I thought I had did everything to guard me heart. Not getting attached, having no expectations or be needy. Low and behold he stole my heart. Sad thing is I don't know how I feel about it. I guess I am numb to all feelings. So ladies fight yo

Happy Halloween Luv's. Have fun with the kiddies. Be Safe.....

Have you ever really love or like someone and they don't notice you? A lot of people happily ever after is staring them in the face. They could be your business partner, guy or girl next door, childhood friend or your co-worker in the next cubicle or the person at your favorite restaurant that knows your order without you telling them.  I remember meeting guys and have them just see me as a sister or a great business partner. All I could think is what am I chopped liver. Really dude what is it ? The fact that maybe you are afraid I might hold you to a higher standard?  Or you just might live up to your greatest potential while dating me. Oh wait I'm not your type . RIIIIGGGHHHHTTTTT  SMH Yeah, I am different than some females. I know a lot about different guy stuff. But did it ever dawn on these idiots that I know so much stuff, because I am a true lover of men. I love a masculine, athletic, tall, well spoken, tattooed , yet sophisticated men. OH My God don't let him sm

Okay folks maybe it is just me, but how in the hell do crazy women get good men? When there are women that are submissive, loving and caring that get looked over for these crazy ass selfish women. What is WRONG with these men? Did the doctor not spank them on the ass hard enough when they came out the wound ? Maybe they weren't advised on what to look for in a women? Geesh just venting... Stupid ass crazy chicks get it all...

I am seeking inner peace and life balance. True happiness will never be achieved until you have inner peace and calm the raging storm going on inside of you. How can someone love you if you can't love yourself? Learning to love me and seek a healthy balance. Learning to not stress out about people or material things. What is for me God will give it to me.

The older I get I have realized people aren't seeking relationships. I mean maybe I should just be transparent and say that I haven't met a man that wanted to be in a meaning relationship with me. Men now a days will make plans to sleep with you, but will not make plans to spend time with you outside the bedroom. They will come up with every excuse like I had to work or my kids needed me. Yet you can carve out hour to hour an half to sleep with someone. So I am setting no expectations when it comes to finding a meaningful relationship. Learning to love being alone and preparing myself to be alone if God doesn't send someone my way.

Settling is so dangerous. I watch so many people settle after finding a mate. Even though you are in a relationship don't settle. What I mean is...... don't stop making yourself up everyday. Put on your makeup, keep your hair done, keeping dressing nice. Don't start dressing all homey after you get in a serious relationship.  Stay attractive.... The same way you were dressing attractive to get that person continue to do those things. No one wants someone that's not going to put effort into their appearance. So don't get relaxed. Never settle....

The need for your touch has me so gone. I can't figure out if it is right or wrong. The way you caress my chest and the way you ease up into my warm, wet love nest. Makes my desire for you so strong. I swear I can't tell if it is right or wrong. Cause when our body's connect they play that oh so familiar song. In and out...up and down..long stroke..short stroke. Two bodies moving to that familiar song. I swear I can't tell if it is right our wrong. Cause your touch has me so gone. 

We all have asked for something and when it happen wasn't prepared for it. You know that prayer where you ask God for a new car and he makes it happen but 3 months into having the  car you can't afford the gas. Same thing happens in relationships stop asking for things to happen when you aren't  mentally, physically or financially prepared for it. And if what you prayed for does come to life damnit don't complain. You asked for it and the universe gave  it to you. So suck it up butter cup.

So as black women we have to do better when it comes to our attitude about things. Five reasons I think we should do better are listed below: 1. Because you aren't always right. Other people have an opinion too. Your word isn't the be all and end all. 2. Setting a better example of what a proud black women can and will be. We all aren't angry,loud, rude or disorderly. Some of us actually have our shit together. 3. You will run off a good man. I will hear some of you say if he is a good man than he shouldn't run. Well a lot of good men that know their worth and what they want out of life really ain't gonna take too much B.S. off of a women. Hell some beautiful celebrity women can't keep a man because of her attitude. 4. In the work place you make other races think all black women have the same work ethic. Well I am here to say that is false. I will work you under the table before I let you put me in that same category. 5. What example are you setting for you

Beware of transfer of energy. People will be so f#$%ed up mentally and emotionally that they will try to transfer that same negative energy into your life. Just look at them smile and say nope not today we good. Do you boo and walk away. Cause remember their problem isn't always with you . You're just the person they are taking it out on. So bounce... 

Watch the ones that you call your friend. I have learned over the years that women friends are no different than male friends. Some will be happy that you have someone in your life. Others will be low key haters. Now you can almost miss the low key hater if you don't watch ques and little sly remarks. These friends are quick to bring up issues from past relationships. For instance tell them about the wonderful man or women you just met and watch the hating begin. They tend to remind you of all the things you said about your ex when you first started dating. And end with the comment of you see how that turned out. Low key hating in your face. Every relationship and person is different. I am learning not to tell people in my circle about any new relationships I start, because of the hating. I will have friends that will have someone laying next to them every night, but will want you to be single and lonely. What the hell? I mean really dude so I'm not good enough for a m

Knowing when it is time to close the book on a relationship is hard. Recently I went through a breakup with someone. We dated for about 10 months before I decided I couldn't take anymore of the relationship. The relationship had some challenges from the beginning. One was giving and the other was willfully taking. That has been my downfall in relationships. I am a giver and most men I date seem to be takers. I really should change the type of men I date right. Yeah I think so too. Anyways after months of being neglected emotionally. Him hiding secrets and dealing with what he said was depression. I just couldn't do it anymore. I think my breaking point was I spent Christmas and New Years 2016 alone. He claim he had went to church with his family from out of state. I actually found out he was in another state with his new baby mama. Yes, you read that correctly he used church as a cover up, but was really with a baby mama I didn't even knew he had.  Not just a baby mama,

As a single dating woman, I often wonder what is the guy's intention? Especially when we meet for the first time. There are so many thoughts that race through my mind. I wonder, does he really like me? Could it be finance or is he looking for support? Maybe it's sex? As a woman, we mentality start tearing ourselves apart, which is crazy if you ask me. You never can tell a person's intentions from the beginning. To be honest you may not see the real person until 6 months to a year later. I know, crazy. So many different types of guys out here. There are some guys that are brutally honest and will tell you that they just want sex with no strings attached. There’s the guy that has a woman at home and strictly just wants sex from you or another place he can go when the woman at home gets on his nerves. These guys I hate the most. They are dangerous to your physical and mental health. Others will string you along until the next fat booty comes along. Also, there's the guy th

Your touch I love so much I love the way you smell, the way you slightly tilt your head The way you lay so still in bed. I love the way you extend your arm for me to lay in. The touch of your arm closing in to pull me closer to your chest Which I think is the best I love the touch of us spooning while we sleep, a sleep that is so deep Your touch is the best and I guess that just like me you love my caress.

Diamonds may be forever My love will outlast a diamond It will shine and grow for years to come You are the diamond in my eyes The beat in my heart and the forever in my life..

Why is it that men aren't truthful, why do men hide secrets from women, but want women to be 100% truthful to them. I personally will never understand how a man can ask a women to not sleep with another man, but he never stops sleeping with other women. That is like the worst thing a man can do to a women. It breaks down her self- esteem, it will make her feel less of a women and she builds up this wall of not trusting men. Now not all men will do this, but a large majority of men do. Now if women did this to men they would be called thots, whores, and any other derogatory name. So in reality it's a bad catch 22 on a women.  I don't have the answer to this question and may never will. However guy's be truthful with your intentions and stop breaking women's heart.

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I will never understand the male species? They say we are very weird and emotional.  But damn men have left me scratching my head in disbelief. The emotional rollercoaster and acting weird. Just like men women aren't mind readers. I can't tell what you are thinking and I surly can't prevent something if I don't know what I am trying to prevent. I think the older we get the more I realize that the bullshit has to stop at some point. Just like men women have a tolerance level and once it has been reached we are pretty much over it. Whatever it maybe... These Kats are weird... is all I got to say. Men are from Venus and Women are from Mars literally..

Being Submissive doesn't make you the weaker sex ladies.  The act of being submissive is something a man has to earn or vice versa both partners can be submissive to each other. However, people look for the women to be submissive, because she is the more gentle sex.  Submission is something you want to do for your man if he is worthy of it. Only you can determine if your man is worthy of submission. For me the act of submission comes easily. I want my man to lead, be the head of the relationship and dominate in bed. I do not seek to be the controller of our relationship nor wear the pants. I am a women and I will act as such.. I was created to be the gentler, loving, caring, and nurturing sex. I was created to be his safe haven when the world is so loud that he needs to get away. So my submission would be to give him that authority and be there when he needs to rest his head on my chest. Submission has gotten a bad name, but if more people submitted relationships wou

For the life of me I don't get relationships. I mean.... I watch women be down right nasty, physically and verbally abusive to men. Crazy thing is these men stay and let these women treat them like shit. WHY? Like REALLY DUDE... The poo tang can't be that good. Sometimes I wonder if I am too soft or too weak of a women when it comes to men. That when men see me they just think I am too weak to be in a relationship with them. I just don't get it. Maybe God is holding the right guy for me in a corner of the world so he want get tainted with these women sinful ways. Just tired of being lonely and getting look over for these nasty women...

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Baby It ain't you It's Me.. Baby it ain't you it's me. What do you mean it ain't me it's you? Do you think I'm a fool. Is this your way of taking the easy way out? Naw, naw son that's not what this love is all about. I really do think you feel so without a doubt. For the life of me I can't figure what this shit right here, right now is all about. Last night when you had me spread to the heaven's screaming your name. You wasn't thinking about anything. Now this morning you get up with some concealable doubt. Saying baby it ain't you it's me. What the hell is that all about? After last night you mean to tell me you still have doubt? By: Char

When a man falls in love with you. You will know it you won't have to sleep with him or do anything to compromise who you are. He will wait on you to get to where you need to be in the relationship.

Difference in Age Age ain’t nothing but a number. They say you are too old for me and I say I am old enough. Age ain’t nothing but a number. You say I am too young and I say baby I am sprung. Age ain’t nothing but a number. From the sway in my hips to the top of my lips. Age ain’t nothing but a number. From the push in your stroke, to you rocking my boat. Age ain’t nothing but a number. So I will say it again, I love the gray on your chin and the dimples in your grin.   Age ain’t nothing but a number my friend. Written by Char ….

Always Love Each Other.

Make him sweat a little. Don't always answer on the first call when you are getting to know each other, don't always be available. Because they won't value it in the long term. Scenario 2 Months into Dating: Albert: First Call : Hey babe just touched down at the airport. Von: No answer. See's call, but is working. Albert: Second call: HEY BABY (curious) why you not answering I am on my way home? Von: See's call, but is working. Albert third call: ( voice in distressed) Women if you don't let me hear your voice. I am going to show up at your job. Damnit Von: (Calls Albert back sweetly) Hey Hun........ Albert: Don't hey hun me. Where the hell you been women? Usually how the conversation goes. But it works...

If I Told YOU ( thoughts of man/women that has done wrong) If I told you would you believe me? If I told you would you continue to stay? If I told you would you slap me in the face? If I told you would you love me anyways?  If I told you I was sorry for hurting you would you stay?  If I told you I don't know what else to say would you walk away  or would you just say the hell with me and run away?  What If I told you I want you too stay?  Written by Char